As an out there ethical super slut, I get asked this question a lot. Most of the people I see looking for sex focus too much on sex and not enough on being an awesome person that people feel they can trust when asked to have have sex. Here are my top 5 tips:

1. Make lots of friends that include fems, treat them well. Show that you are not a creeper stalker and respect people for more than sex
2. Get to know somethings about them, ask questions and listen
3. Work on flirting skill, people that are fun to flirt with are more fun to engage with for sex when you do not know the
4. work on your flirting skill, people that are fun to flirt with are more fun to engage with for sex when you do not know them
5. Ask, strait out, be forward. “Hey you are super cute, I like X about you, are you interested in Y“

There a few things to avoid

• “Let’s hang out” than stealth it into a date – Ask for what you want
• Push boundaries and renegotiate during the heat of the moment
• Use Routines or forced scripted conversations, focus on banter and smooth conversations instead

Finally you want to be an ethical slut, focus on finding community with the same values. It is much easier to find the things you are looking for people share values and belief with you, or they at least respect your values.

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